There’s something undeniably nostalgic about the phrase, What I Did on My Christmas Vacation. For many of us, it immediately conjures up memories of childhood – returning to school in January, bundled up in our winter coats, and being handed the inevitable post-holiday writing assignment. The topic was always the same: share your holiday experience in the form of a story, complete with a beginning, middle, and end. Back then, it was an exercise in creativity, structure, and self-expression. Now, as adults, we’re still asked the same question – though the audience has changed. Instead of teachers grading our grammar and imagination, we find ourselves recounting our holiday stories to work colleagues, catching up with friends, or even reflecting on it for ourselves.
This simple question has endured because it’s more than just small talk; it’s a way to connect, to share a piece of ourselves with others. Whether we’re reminiscing about the holidays of childhood, giving a polished version to coworkers, or swapping heartfelt moments with close friends, the answer allows us to revisit our experiences and build connections. With this throwback memory to those early school days, let me tell you about my Christmas vacation…
The #AdamsFamilyExperience at Christmas
As you can read here, this was to be no ordinary Christmas holiday at our house – for the first time in several years, everyone was coming home.
All 21 of us!
Things unfolded as planned – everyone arrived pretty much on time, everyone was healthy, and everyone was happy to see siblings and cousins.
We had already designated Monday 12/23 as our “Christmas” – and on the night of the 22nd, all four of our kids and their spouses dove in after their kids, nieces, and nephews were in bed to create the first ever #AdamsFamilyExperience Christmas train:
It actually took less time that I anticipated; in some of Anita and my past experiences, I remember Christmas Eve assembly and wrapping sessions that lasted until the early hours of the morning! Of course, ten sets of hands helped!
The result speaks for itself – an engine with 11 cars, one for each grandchild!
The next fews days were mostly a blur as we unwrapped gifts, ate wonderful meals, played with new toys (grandkids) and games (adults), and just generally enjoyed the wonderful chaos called family.
We even had time to gather for a family photo:
When Christmas Day rolled around, it was time to begin saying goodbye as three of the families headed back home to continue their own Christmas traditions. Our NM tribe had planned to stay with us until the 30th.
…and then some other stuff happened.
The day after Christmas I was not feeling well, and took it easy most of the day. By 12/27 I was in quite a bit of pain, so Dr. Mom, AKA Anita, took me to urgent care where they promptly sent me off the the Emergency Department – where I spent the day into the next morning waiting for a hospital room so I could be transferred.
The diagnosis leaving the ED was surgery for a perforated ulcer, and the surgical team at Atrium Cabarrus was anticipating that as well. However, that’s not what God had planned.
Because of the delay in getting a room, then a delay in having an imaging test that would pinpoint the problem, it was actually Sunday 12/29 when the surgical team took a conservative approach – no surgery at the moment, but complete rest and IV fluids only for up to a week.
It seems my body had encapsulated the ulcer, and was in the process of healing itself. A fews days later I was able to observe first-hand the amazing view of swallowing a radioactive dye going down my throat and into and through the various organs – with no signs of a leak this time.
With vitals where they wanted them, I was discharged on Thursday 1/2 – only to be readmitted 12 hours later with intense pain in my chest. Focused on signs of cardiac distress, the triage team was not as fast as getting me in a room as I would have liked – but at least I got an ED room instead of the dozen or so patients who were lined up in the hallways (including the sheriff’s deputies and a patient in handcuffs)! Imaging revealed an inflamed gallbladder, likely as a result of what was going on next door with my ulcer.
After a few hours in the ED, I was transferred back to PSC-3 – the same post surgical wing with the same nursing staff I had just spent a week with. This group of dedicated nurses were simply the best in caregiving I have ever experienced. To a person they were gentle and efficient as they went beyond fulfilling what they had to do to actually caring about me as a person. Over my 10-day stay, they were amazing in looking out for me in every way imaginable. We even got to laugh over “losing” me during one of the procedures!
On Sunday 1/12 I heard the words from my surgical team I was anticipating: “Do you want to go home today?” With a genuinely fond farewell from the nursing team, Anita brought me home that evening, where I crashed for the next 14 hours.
My prognosis is good, with additional tests and imaging scheduled in about a month to see where my body is at in the healing process.
The boyhood me, receiving a post-holiday assignment, would have quite a tale to tell.
The adult me, reflecting on what happened over the past couple of weeks, has no less of a tale to tell.
Whether it’s an essay for a teacher, small talk with coworkers, or a heartfelt chat with friends, What I Did on My Christmas Vacation is a question that evolves with us. It’s a chance to reflect, share, and connect in ways that go beyond the surface. So the next time you hear it, embrace the opportunity to tell your story – and to learn a little more about the people asking the question. After all, the magic of the holidays lives on in the stories we share.
The Christmas season is upon us, and in our household, this means only one thing: The Adams Family Experience Christmas is gearing up for another legendary chapter!
With 21 people from five families descending upon Huntersville, NC over three travel days from four locations, coordinating this event is less like planning a holiday gathering and more like executing a military campaign. In the spirit of strategic brilliance, I’ve turned to Sun Tzu’s The Art of War for guidance. After all, if Sun Tzu can conquer kingdoms, surely he can help me conquer Christmas chaos.
Step 1: Know Thy Enemy — The Guest List
Sun Tzu wisely said, “If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles.” Our “enemy” is not the need for lactose-free eggnog or gluten-free stuffing demands – it’s the sheer logistics of hosting this crew:
From Alamogordo, NM: The desert-dwelling faction arrives with tales of tumbleweeds and an 3-year old whose energy rivals that of the Energizer Bunny.
From Farmville, VA: A group of refined Southern charmers who always bring a new (and weird) game that everyone enjoys. Accompanying them is the newest granddog, a lovable golden retriever with the biggest feet we’ve ever seen.
From Boone, NC: Our rugged mountain kin, eager to discuss “what real cold feels like” while chasing down the 18-month old “party animal”.
From Fuquay-Varina, NC: The suburbanites are bringing diva dog (a beagle who doesn’t know she is a dog) and endless enthusiasm for games of all kinds – as long as they win.
The ages of our crew range from precocious toddlers to the youngest “elders” you’ve ever seen in their mid-60s. That’s five generational cohorts in one house!
Step 2: Every Battle is Won Before It is Fought — Sleeping Arrangements
With a full house and a rented Airbnb 4 houses down the street, the sleeping strategy must be airtight. Here’s the tactical breakdown:
Our House: Reserved for the early risers, light sleepers, and those who require direct proximity to coffee and tea. It’s essentially triage by caffeine dependence.
Main Bedroom – The VA crew will be ensconced in the primary bedroom suite with kids, dog, and parents scattered around the space.
Front Bedroom – The NM parents will ride herd on their kids scattered upstairs and downstairs.
Disney Bedroom – The younger boys will be immersed in LEGO to their heart’s delight
Upstairs Bedroom – All the older girl cousins will be stacked up in double-decker cots.
The Airbnb: This fortress houses the night owls and party animals. The teenage boys, armed with iPhones and headphones, are banished to a makeshift barracks in the family room.
Bedroom 1: Nina and GrandBob (the generals of this campaign) will run the whole multi-day event from this hideaway.
Bedroom 2 – The Boonie parents, accompanied by the youngest member of the family, will retreat here.
Bedroom 3 – The diva dog will be snoozing away at least 20 hours a day here, and has graciously consented to allow her people to stay and take care of her.
Step 3: Feed Your Troops — Meal Planning
“The line between disorder and order lies in logistics,” said Sun Tzu. Feeding 21 people, including gluten-free, lactose-intolerant, and diabetic contingents, is a logistical Everest. As you will see, we like to eat! Luckily, we have a lot of good cooks in the family! Here’s the plan:
Day 1: Reconnaissance Fare
As the crews begin arriving throughout the day, a light breakfast, followed by a visit to a great CLT restaurant, and ending with soup and chili is the plan. It’s versatile and scalable as our numbers increase during the day, and easily accommodates dietary needs.
Day 2: Full Crew Offensive
With almost the full #AdamsFamilyExperience tribe gathered, it’s time for a North Carolina staple at lunch: BBQ and all the fixings. When evening rolls around, it’s time for a Taco Bar, with specialties added in: Gluten-free tortillas, lactose-free sour cream, and enough of Uncle Aaron’s guac to fill a kiddie pool.
Day 3: Middle Earth Feast
A strategic masterpiece featuring the full seven meals of a hobbit’s day:
Everyone (well, maybe not the toddlers) is contributing to the feast courtesy of a shared Google doc and lots of research over the last month. At least half the fun will be the pandemonium of everyone working on their dishes throughout the day. It’s a good thing we will have two kitchens!
Day 4: Christmas Eve
Assuming we wake up from the previous day’s food coma, we will turn back to more traditional fare: breakfast goodies, Jimmy John’s sandwiches for lunch, and Mississippi Pot Roast for supper.
Day 5: Christmas Day
Pancakes! Fruit! Ham rolls! A Caprese Christmas Tree! Cranberry Orange Chicken! Roasted Root Vegetables! Winter Salad! Dessert! Oh. My.
Day 6: The Leftover Buffet
As the crews begin to depart one by one, we will throw open the fridge and let the troops forage. Survivors will head to our favorite restaurant, La Unica, and the best server in the world, Nancy.
Day 7: Pizza Peace Talks
We’re down to one family besides Nina and GrandBob, but it’s the biggest with 5 kids! Time to roll out a family favorite: Pizza and a Movie!
Step 4: All Warfare is Based on Deception — Managing the Dogs
Two dogs present a unique challenge. Sun Tzu might suggest deploying decoys, but we’re going with containment zones:
The Retriever – Assigned to the main house, complete with chew toys and a toddler-proof deck for plenty of space to roam as needed.
The Beagle – Indoors at the main house, but nights at the Airbnb with the world’s softest dog bed to prevent territorial skirmishes.
From prior experience, there will be separate food/water bowls set up in different rooms in the house. Both dogs will be strategically kept away from the dining tables – a critical neutral zone.
Step 5: Let Your Plans Be Dark and Impenetrable — Entertainment Strategy
To maintain peace among 21 people, the entertainment schedule must be flawless. Sun Tzu reminds us, “Opportunities multiply as they are seized,” so we’ll seize opportunities for fun:
Board games for the adults and teenagers; LEGO, kid games, and Disney movies for the children, and a Christmas craft activity with Nina
The traditional Christmas LEGO project, drawing from a collection 40 years in the making
Morning and afternoon walks with the dogs
Outside fun on the playset or in the park, weather permitting
Fire pit and deck heater for after-hours conversations
Christmas Eve service at our church
Family gift exchange, courtesy of a holiday Gift Train, with 11 “cars” (apparently, adults don’t count)
A family photo session that will be considered a success if it only takes 17 attempts
Planned spontaneity
Step 6: In the Midst of Chaos, There is Also Opportunity
Let’s face it: no amount of planning will prevent every toddler meltdown, burnt pie crust, or game argument. But as Sun Tzu might say, victory isn’t perfection – it’s managing the mayhem with grace and the occasional adult beverage.
This year, the #AdamsFamilyExperience Christmas will be a masterpiece of strategic planning, creative problem-solving, and good humor. And if all else fails, there’s always the peace treaty of Netflix, Disney+, and all-day pajamas.
Happy holidays from the “battlefield” – AKA the AdamsFamilyExperience. May your Christmas be as merry and well-planned as ours is striving to be!
Often when you think you’re at the end of something, you’re at the beginning of something else.
Fred Rogers
It has become almost a cliché that the only constant today is change.
What moves it from a cliché to a truism is that the Greek philosopher Heraclitus said the same thing – 2,500 years ago.
In spite of that historical background, we all feel that change is different today: it is without end, and increasingly complex. We talk not of a single change, but of change as an ongoing phenomenon. It’s a collage, not a single simple image; one change overlaps with another, and it’s all change as far as the eye can see.
To some degree, the downside of change is inevitable. Whenever human communities are forced to adjust to shifting conditions, pain is ever present. But a significant amount of the waste and anguish we’ve witnessed in change management is avoidable.
The typical organization – or person – has not operated well in a rapidly changing environment. Structure, systems, and culture have often been a drag on change rather than a facilitator.
The failure to sustain significant change recurs again and again despite substantial resources committed to the change effort, talented and committed people “driving the change,” and high stakes. In fact, leaders feeling an urgent need for change end up right: organizations that fail to sustain significant change end up facing crises.
This isn’t the sort of challenge you take on because it sounds good.
Adapting to and mastering change is not a choice. A significant part of a leader’s responsibility deals with being a change agent in the organization’s culture. In a time when changes come so fast and from so many unexpected angles, change is no longer a luxury but an imperative.
Even though change is a must, the “how-to’s” can often prove a problem. Many people lunge into change with no idea of its rules, its guiding principles, its nuances – and its dangers. Quite often disaster is the result. The only thing worse than ignoring change is leaping into it willy-nilly.
The business world is constantly transforming. When restructures, mergers, bankruptcies, and layoffs hit the workplace, employees and managers naturally find the resulting situational shifts to be challenging. But the psychological transitions that accompany them are even more stressful. Organizational transitions affect people; it is always people, rather than a company, who have to embrace a new situation and carry out the corresponding change.
As veteran business consultant William Bridges explains, transition is successful when employees have a purpose, a plan, and a part to play. This indispensable guide is now updated to reflect the challenges of today’s ever-changing, always-on, and globally connected workplaces. Directed at managers on all rungs of the corporate ladder, this expanded edition of the classic bestseller provides practical, step-by-step strategies for minimizing disruptions and navigating uncertain times.
A SIMPLE SOLUTION
If you were to gather a group of 10 to 20 people together, and ask them to discuss changes they are going through (or have recently gone through), before long you will notice all different types of change provide people with the same basic experience.
Three main similarities begin to present themselves:
An ending, followed by
A period of confusion and distress, leading to
A new beginning.
However you deal with them, endings are the first phase of transition. The second phase is a time of lostness and emptiness before “life” resumes an intelligible pattern and direction, while the third phase is that of beginning anew.
That is the order of things in nature. Leaves fall in autumn, winter sets in, and then the green emerges again from the dry brown wood in the spring. Human affairs flow along similar channels, or they would if we were better able to stay in that current.
But endings are fearful. They break our connections with the setting in which we have come to know ourselves, and they awaken old memories of hurt and shame. Growing frightened, we are likely to abort the three-phase process of ending, lostness, and beginning.
Sometimes, we even twist the pattern around so that beginnings come first, then endings, and then…then what? Nothing.
It is when we turn things around in that way that transition becomes so unintelligible and frightening.
It isn’t the change that will do you in – it’s the transitions. Getting people through the transition is essential if the change is actually to work as planned.
The Three Phases of Transition
Endings – Letting go of the old ways and the old identity people had. This first phase of transition is an ending and the time when you need to help people deal with their losses.
Neutral Zone – Going through and in-between time when the old is gone but the new isn’t fully operational. Called the “neutral zone,” it’s when the critical psychological realignments and repatternings are taking place.
New Beginnings – Coming out of the transition and making a new beginning. This is when people develop the new identity, experience the new energy, and discover the new sense of purpose that make the change begin to work.
On the top of a chart tablet, list a change in your organizational life that you have been considering.
Underneath this, divide the rest of the chart tablet into three columns, and write the headings “Endings,” “Neutral Zone,” and “New Beginnings” at the top of the columns.
Before you move forward, ask yourselves these three questions developed by the William Bridges Associates team:
What is changing? Until any vagueness you have about change can be clarified and until the leaders of the change can explain it clearly, in a statement lasting no longer than one minute, there is no way that they are going to be able to get other people to buy into the change. Longer explanations and justifications will also have to be made but it is the one-minute statement that will be the core of people’s understanding.
What will actually be different because of the change? Many change projects are designed and launched at such a high level in the organization that all the planning is unrelated to the everyday, operational details that make up the lives of most workers. In such cases, the decision-makers often have no idea how changes will actually make anyone’s life or job, or even the function of a whole department, different. Yet that is all that people need to know before they can embrace and support a change.
Who’s going to lose what? There must be a hundred other versions of objections to dealing with endings and losses, but they are all variations on a single theme: the mistaken idea that the best way to get people through a transition is to deny that they are even in a transition. In fact many internal communications projects are based on this central misconception that you can (and should) talk people out of their reactions to the change.
Transition management is based on another idea: that the best way to get people through transition is to affirm their experience and to help them to deal with it. It is simply a question of understanding how the world looks to them and using that as the starting point in your dealings with them.
With an understanding of the dynamics covered in these three questions, spend at least one hour working through the three phases of transition, writing down words or phrases under each heading.
Part of a regular series on 27gen, entitled Wednesday Weekly Reader.
During my elementary school years one of the things I looked forward to the most was the delivery of “My Weekly Reader,” a weekly educational magazine designed for children and containing news-based current events.
It became a regular part of my love for reading, and helped develop my curiosity about the world around us.
Over the past 35+ years, the concept of the “third place” has undergone a remarkable transformation. Originally described by sociologist Ray Oldenburg as informal public spaces where people could gather, relax, and connect outside of home and work, these third places have increasingly shifted from grassroots, community-driven hubs to commercially branded environments. While the rise of corporate third places has introduced new opportunities for connection and convenience, it has also brought challenges that affect inclusivity, authenticity, and the role these spaces play in our lives.
How has commercialization reshaped third places – and what does that mean for the way we socialize and build community?
The Branded Third Place: Where Community Meets Profit
In Oldenburg’s mindset, third places were often neighborhood coffee shops, diners, bookstores, or pubs where people could linger without the pressure to spend much money. Today, corporations have seized on the idea of the third place and turned it into a marketing tool. Starbucks, perhaps the most famous example, explicitly branded itself as a “third place” in the 1990s, creating environments where customers could gather, work, or relax while enjoying a coffee. This idea caught on, and other brands, from Panera Bread to McDonald’s with its McCafé concept, began to position themselves as modern-day community hubs.
While these branded spaces often provide a consistent and welcoming experience – comfortable seating, free Wi-Fi, ambient music – they are inherently transactional. To enjoy these spaces, customers are typically expected to make a purchase. Unlike traditional third places, where lingering was often welcomed regardless of spending, these spaces come with an unspoken understanding: you’re welcome as long as you’re consuming.
Independent Third Places Face Challenges
As corporate third places have flourished, many independent, grassroots third places have struggled to survive. Local coffee shops, bookstores, and neighborhood bars often lack the financial resources to compete with large chains that benefit from economies of scale and brand recognition. Rising rents and changing consumer habits have also played a role, making it difficult for these smaller spaces to stay afloat.
The loss of independent third places has broader implications. These spaces often reflect the unique character of their communities, offering a sense of local identity and culture that branded third places can’t replicate. A family-owned café might host open mic nights or community discussions, fostering a sense of belonging that goes beyond the transactional. When these spaces disappear, communities lose not just a gathering spot, but a part of their cultural fabric.
The “Pay-to-Play” Model and Inclusivity
One of the most significant shifts in third places has been the introduction of financial thresholds for participation. While traditional third places often welcomed people from all walks of life, modern branded spaces tend to cater to specific demographics. The expectation to purchase a latte or sandwich in exchange for using the space creates a barrier for those with limited disposable income. For individuals who used to rely on free or low-cost community spaces, such as libraries or parks, this can make socializing more difficult.
This shift also raises questions about inclusivity. Oldenburg’s vision of third places emphasized their egalitarian nature – a pub or café where people from different socioeconomic backgrounds could meet as equals. In many branded third places, the design and pricing often cater to a more affluent clientele, making these spaces feel exclusive rather than welcoming to all.
The Commodification of Social Interaction
Another consequence of commercialization is the commodification of the very social interactions that make third places valuable. Today, spending time in a third place is often tied to lifestyle branding. A chic café with minimalist décor might appeal to young professionals or creatives, while a rustic microbrewery draws in a different niche. These curated environments encourage customers to identify with the space—and by extension, the brand—turning what should be a community-oriented experience into a carefully marketed product.
Additionally, many modern third places have introduced data-driven business models. For example, establishments offering free Wi-Fi might collect data on browsing habits or purchasing patterns, turning customers into sources of revenue beyond their coffee orders. This surveillance adds another layer of commercialization, subtly altering the experience of being in a third place.
The Positive Side of Commercialized Third Places
It’s not all bad news, though. The rise of branded third places has made these spaces more widely available and accessible in some respects. Chains like Starbucks have brought the concept of the third place to areas that previously lacked such gathering spots, particularly in suburban and rural regions. For people who value consistency and convenience, these spaces provide a reliable option for meeting friends, working remotely, or simply relaxing.
Corporate ownership has also brought attention to the importance of design and amenities in creating welcoming environments. Many branded third places invest in features like comfortable seating, good lighting, and thoughtful layouts, enhancing the overall experience. During challenging times, such as the COVID-19 pandemic, larger chains were often able to adapt quickly, offering mobile ordering, curbside pickup, and expanded outdoor seating – ensuring that third places remained accessible when people needed them most.
Striking a Balance
The commercialization of third places presents a complex picture. On one hand, branded spaces have made third places more widely available and have introduced new amenities that enhance convenience and comfort. On the other hand, the transactional nature of these spaces, their tendency to cater to specific demographics, and the decline of independent alternatives have raised concerns about inclusivity and authenticity.
As we move forward, communities and businesses alike will need to think critically about how to preserve the spirit of Oldenburg’s third places in an increasingly commercialized world. How can we create spaces that are welcoming to everyone, regardless of their ability to pay? How can we balance the convenience of branded third places with the cultural richness of grassroots ones? These are questions worth exploring if we want to ensure that third places remain vital parts of our social fabric.
Ultimately, the best third places – whether branded or independent – are those that prioritize connection over consumption, fostering a sense of belonging that goes beyond the bottom line. After all, it’s the people who make these spaces special, not the products they sell.
One of the most challenging aspects of leadership isn’t dealing with external obstacles – it’s managing internal resistance from your own team. While leaders generally prepare themselves for external challenges, the emotional toll of facing opposition from within can be particularly devastating, often leaving them feeling betrayed and discouraged.
Every leader knows the stormy seas of resistance. When faced with change, even the most dedicated teams can push back, especially when there’s something to lose. How do you guide your team through these turbulent times without losing sight of the mission? Leading Through Resistance by Tod Bolsinger is a beacon for leaders navigating the choppy waters of organizational change.
Leading Through Resistance offers more than just strategies; it delivers a mindset shift. With wisdom woven through every page, Tod Bolsinger teaches you unexpected skills to not only face resistance but to transform it into a mission-driving force.
Leading Through Resistance is a roadmap to resilient leadership. Equip yourself with the tools to lead with confidence, adapt with grace, and inspire transformation. Whether you’re a seasoned leader or just starting your leadership journey, Leading Through Resistance is your essential guide to turning resistance into resilience.
Understanding Internal Resistance
Internal resistance emerges when we introduce new ideas or attempt to implement significant organizational changes. As leaders, we often take this resistance personally, allowing our egos to become overinvolved until any disagreement feels like a direct challenge to our professional identity. This emotional response can lead to either passive avoidance or counterproductive pushback.
However, it’s crucial to understand that resistance to change isn’t malicious – it’s natural. As Edwin Friedman noted, sabotage isn’t “the bad things that evil people do,” but rather “the human things that anxious people do.” In fact, resistance is so inherently linked to the leadership process that it should be expected whenever significant change is initiated.
The Path Forward: From Pushback to Pull-Together
Instead of trying to eliminate resistance, successful leaders learn to lead through it. The key is to implement an emotionally intelligent process that transforms pushback into buy-in. Rather than meeting resistance with force, invite your team to lock arms and channel their energy toward collective progress.
Core Principles for Managing Resistance
Start with Dual Convictions
The Preservation Conviction: Ensure all changes protect and maintain the organization’s core purpose and values
The Change Conviction: Acknowledge that adaptation is necessary to preserve and advance the organization’s mission
Stay Calm, Curious, and Connected
Maintain emotional equilibrium without becoming detached
Create psychologically safe spaces for honest dialogue
Move closer to resistance rather than away from it
Transform heated emails into personal conversations
Convert formal complaints into opportunities for coffee meetings
Practice Attunement
Research shows that nearly 90% of what distinguishes outstanding leaders comes down to emotional intelligence rather than cognitive abilities. This emotional intelligence manifests through four core competencies:
Self-awareness
Self-management
Social awareness
Relationship management
Practical Strategies for Implementation
Slow Down the Process – While crisis often provides the urgency needed for change, resist the temptation to rush. Frenetic action rarely leads to sustainable transformation.
Give the Work Back – Engage key stakeholders early in the process. As Patrick Lencioni wisely noted, “If people don’t weigh in, they can’t buy in.” Create a guiding coalition that includes even those likely to push back— – heir perspective is valuable.
Conduct an Accusation Audit – Begin by acknowledging potential objections and fears. People are typically twice as motivated by fear of loss as they are by potential gains. Creating this psychological safety helps lower defensive barriers.
Practice Active Mirroring – Listen intently enough to repeat key phrases and emotions expressed by others. The goal isn’t to get them to say “You’re right,” but rather to hear them say “That’s right” when you reflect their concerns back to them.
Embrace the Power of “No” – Counter-intuitively, a genuine “no” is more valuable than a “counterfeit yes.” When people feel safe expressing disagreement, it builds trust and opens the door to authentic commitment later.
For those of us trained in the old “command and control” mindset, it is natural to assume that we have to stand our ground for things to go our way.Don’t eliminate resistance – lead through it.
Tod Bolsinger
The Adaptive Reset
The traditional leadership model of meeting resistance with resistance is outdated. Today’s effective leaders understand that attunement accelerates change. When clarity and empathy combine, they become powerful tools for reducing resistance and fostering genuine buy-in.
Remember that emotional connection precedes rational agreement. In the words of moral psychologist Jonathan Haidt, “Intuitions come first, strategic reasoning second.” By focusing on building trust and lowering defensiveness through genuine connection, leaders can create the conditions for meaningful transformation.
The path forward isn’t about domination or control – it’s about the art of persuading people to work toward a common goal. When leaders make the conscious choice to resist pushing back against pushback and instead attune with those who resist, they create the possibility for collective movement forward.
This approach isn’t manipulation; it’s a process of genuine mutual transformation rooted in deep values and full engagement. By combining clear purpose with emotional intelligence, leaders can turn opponents into allies and resistance into momentum for positive change.
As a Native Tennesseean, specifically Middle Tennessee, I have long been aware of the person of Jack Daniel and the distillery that bears his name.
Interestingly enough, other than name recognition, my first extended exposure to Jack Daniel was through music.
When Jack Daniel opened saloons in Lynchburg in 1892, he thought of a novel way to attract people to the town square. Mr. Jack formed The Silver Cornet Band with musically inclined locals – a bank clerk, grocer, policeman, and even a local lawyer. Like his whiskey, music brought folks together from every walk of life. Mr. Jack’s band played together for another 20 years. Even when the Distillery was closed due to various state and local Prohibition laws, the band kept Jack’s spirit alive.
Mr. Jack Daniel’sOriginal Silver Cornet Band is an affectionate re-creation of a small town band that existed in Lynchburg, Tennessee from 1892 until about 1914.
The “modern” version of this band was the creation of David Fulmer in the mid-1970s, who wrote the show and performed as the “Professor” for many years.
The band began touring in 1978, performing in concert halls throughout the United States and Canada and delighting audiences at music festivals, music educator conferences, and for civic and private events with its joyful style and expert musicianship.
More than just a band concert, a performance by the Silver Cornet Band was a time traveling excursion to an era when life moved at a less hurried pace; when a warm summer evening was spent with a picnic supper in the park, the fellowship of friends and neighbors, and the sound of band music in the air.
I knew several of the band members over the years, as several came from the music program at my college, Tennessee Technological University. Although known primarily as an engineering school, it also had an outstanding low-brass music program, and the attraction of a “brass band” from a turn-of-the-century time period captured the imagination and participation of students.
I was fortunate to attend several concerts over the years, and have all of their music that has been released on CDs. I suppose it was my fondness for the music and the generosity of the man who inspired it, Jack Daniel, who lead me to take the next step in learning more.
Several years after the 100th anniversary of the founding of the distillery, I took part in a tour, fascinated by the stacks of hardwood burning to make the charcoal to filter the liquid, curious about the cave spring that supplied the water, impressed by the craftsmanship needed to create the barrels, and amazed at the huge gallons of mash as it begin the fermentation process that ultimately produced the golden amber liquid that was a part the southern culture of my teenage and college years.
Though not a partaker of alcohol, I was fascinated by the story of Jack Daniel and his life. Over the years, I would read and/or see articles about Jack Daniel and its contribution to culture – particularly the Southern culture from which it arose.
Then, in 2016, a story began to come out: Jack Daniel did own and operate the first registered distillery in the U.S. – but the secret of his charcoal-filtered whiskey came from the knowledge and expertise of a former slave (not owned by Jack Daniel) named Nearest Green who taught a young Jack Daniel all about distilling whiskey…
…and that brings us to today’s Wednesday Weekly reader.
New York Times bestselling author Fawn Weaver unveils the hidden narrative behind one of America’s most iconic whiskey brands. This book is a vibrant exploration set in the present day, delving into the life and legacy of Nearest Green, the African American distilling genius who played a pivotal role in the creation of the whiskey that bears Jack Daniel’s name.
Set against the backdrop of Lynchburg, Tennessee, Love & Whisky weaves together a thrilling blend of personal discovery, historical investigation, and the revelation of a story long overshadowed by time. Through extensive research, personal interviews, and the uncovering of long-buried documents, Weaver brings to light not only the remarkable bond between Nearest Green and Jack Daniel but also Daniel’s concerted efforts during his lifetime to ensure Green’s legacy would not be forgotten. This deep respect for his teacher, mentor, and friend was mirrored in Jack’s dedication to ensuring that the stories and achievements of Nearest Green’s descendants, who continued the tradition of working side by side with Jack and his descendants, would also not be forgotten.
Love & Whiskey is more than just a recounting of historical facts; it’s a live journey into the heart of storytelling, where every discovery adds a layer to the rich tapestry of American history. Weaver’s pursuit highlights the importance of acknowledging those who have shaped our cultural landscape; yet remained in the shadows.
As Weaver intertwines her present-day quest with the historical threads of Green and Daniel’s lives, she not only pays homage to their legacy but also spearheads the creation of Uncle Nearest Premium Whiskey. This endeavor has not only brought Nearest Green’s name to the forefront of the whiskey industry but has also set new records, symbolizing a step forward in recognizing and celebrating African American contributions to the spirit world.
Love & Whiskey invites readers to witness a story of enduring friendship, resilience, and the impact of giving credit where it’s long overdue. It’s an inspiring tale of how uncovering the past can forge new paths and how the spirit of whiskey has connected lives across generations. Join Fawn Weaver on this extraordinary adventure, as she navigates through the layers of history, friendship, and the unbreakable bonds formed by the legacy of America’s native spirit, ensuring the stories of Nearest Green and his descendants live on in the heart of American culture.
The story of Nearest Green, one of the most remarkable yet long-forgotten figures in American whiskey history, has become an essential narrative in understanding the origins of Jack Daniel’s whiskey. Nathan “Nearest” Green was not only the first known African American master distiller, but he was also instrumental in teaching Jack Daniel the craft of whiskey making. His story, rediscovered after more than a century of obscurity, has profoundly reshaped how we view the birth of one of the world’s most famous whiskey brands.
The Early Life of Nearest Green
Nathan Green, commonly known as “Uncle Nearest,” was born into slavery in the early 1800s in Maryland. Like many enslaved people of that time, his skills were not limited to manual labor. Green had an exceptional talent for distilling whiskey, a process that was complex and labor-intensive, requiring a mastery of both art and science. While little is known about his early life, it is likely that he learned the distillation process from earlier generations of enslaved African Americans or European settlers who practiced whiskey-making techniques brought over from Ireland and Scotland.
By the mid-1800s, Green was enslaved on a farm owned by the Reverend Dan Call, a preacher and distiller in Lynchburg, Tennessee. It was at Call’s distillery that Green’s talents in whiskey production would shape history.
Meeting Jack Daniel
Jack Daniel, born Jasper Newton Daniel in 1846, grew up in a world where whiskey was an essential part of southern life. After losing his mother at a young age and suffering from a strained relationship with his father, young Jack left home as a teenager. It was during this period that he was introduced to Reverend Dan Call, who not only took him under his wing but also introduced him to the art of whiskey making. However, it wasn’t Call who would provide Jack with the most important lessons in distilling; that honor belonged to Nearest Green.
Recognizing Green’s unmatched skill, Call entrusted him with teaching Jack Daniel how to make whiskey. Green became Daniel’s mentor, passing on the essential techniques of distillation, including the critical process of charcoal mellowing – an important step in what would later become the defining feature of Tennessee whiskey. The charcoal mellowing technique, also known as the “Lincoln County Process,” involves filtering the whiskey through charcoal to remove impurities and smooth out the flavor. This unique process differentiates Tennessee whiskey from other American whiskeys like bourbon, and it was Green who mastered and shared this process with Jack Daniel.
The Role of Nearest Green in Shaping Jack Daniel’s Whiskey
Nearest Green’s contribution to the Jack Daniel’s whiskey brand goes far beyond simply passing down techniques. His expertise was fundamental to the product’s flavor, consistency, and quality, and his influence is seen in the principles that would guide Jack Daniel’s whiskey production for generations.
Green’s mastery of the charcoal mellowing process allowed Jack Daniel’s whiskey to stand out from competitors. This filtration method gave the whiskey its distinctive smoothness and refinement, creating the signature taste that would make Jack Daniel’s a household name. Green’s influence is not just in the technique but in the philosophy that great whiskey is a product of attention to detail, patience, and craftsmanship.
Even after the end of slavery following the Civil War, Nearest Green remained an integral part of the Jack Daniel’s distillery. When Jack Daniel formally established his distillery in 1866 (which today is considered the oldest registered distillery in the United States), Nearest Green continued to work alongside him, this time as a free man. In fact, records show that Green was one of the distillery’s first employees, making him not only one of the first African American master distillers but also an important partner in the founding of the brand. Later, Green’s two sons continued their father’s legacy at Jack Daniel’s distillery.
The Lost Legacy of Nearest Green
Despite his undeniable contributions, Nearest Green’s role in the creation of Jack Daniel’s whiskey faded from history over the decades. Whiskey production in the 19th century was dominated by white narratives, and the contributions of African Americans were often overlooked or erased altogether. As a result, Nearest Green’s name was not mentioned in the official Jack Daniel’s company history for over 150 years.
It wasn’t until the 21st century that Green’s role began to be rediscovered. In 2016, author and historian Fawn Weaver embarked on a mission to uncover the true history behind the origins of Jack Daniel’s whiskey. Through meticulous research, Weaver uncovered documentation and oral histories that confirmed Nearest Green’s integral role in teaching Jack Daniel how to make whiskey.
Her efforts led to a groundbreaking realization: that Nearest Green was not only Jack Daniel’s teacher but also a key figure in the establishment of one of the most iconic whiskey brands in the world. This discovery marked a turning point in the narrative of American whiskey history and forced a reexamination of the often-overlooked contributions of African Americans to the industry.
Restoring Green’s Place in History
The rediscovery of Nearest Green’s legacy has led to a concerted effort to ensure his contributions are recognized and celebrated. In 2017, Jack Daniel’s officially acknowledged Nearest Green as the first master distiller for the brand. The company has since made efforts to honor his memory, including creating a dedicated section on the distillery’s tour that focuses on Green’s contributions.
Fawn Weaver also founded the Nearest Green Foundation, which aims to preserve Green’s legacy and provide scholarships for his descendants. Additionally, in 2017, a new whiskey brand, Uncle Nearest Premium Whiskey, was launched in his honor. Uncle Nearest Whiskey has quickly gained popularity, and its success serves as a fitting tribute to the man whose expertise and craftsmanship shaped the early days of Jack Daniel’s whiskey.
The Legacy of Nearest Green
Nearest Green’s story is not just one of whiskey-making brilliance; it’s a story about how the contributions of African Americans were often sidelined or forgotten in history. The rediscovery of his legacy offers a fuller, more accurate picture of the origins of Jack Daniel’s whiskey and highlights the crucial role African Americans played in shaping the American whiskey industry.
Nearest Green’s influence endures in every bottle of Jack Daniel’s whiskey, a testament to his mastery of distilling and the indelible mark he left on the industry. Today, his legacy is being restored and celebrated, reminding us of the rich and complex history behind one of the world’s most beloved spirits.
Part of a regular series on 27gen, entitled Wednesday Weekly Reader.
During my elementary school years one of the things I looked forward to the most was the delivery of “My Weekly Reader,” a weekly educational magazine designed for children and containing news-based current events.
It became a regular part of my love for reading, and helped develop my curiosity about the world around us.
Ray Oldenburg’s concept of the “third place” (the social environments that are separate from the “first place” of home and the “second place” of work) has evolved significantly over the past 35+ years, shaped by cultural, technological, and economic shifts. While Oldenburg’s books – The Great Good Place (1989) and Celebrating the Third Place (2000) – highlighted informal public spaces like cafes, bars, and parks as essential for community building and fostering social interaction, these spaces have been impacted by various factors over the last three decades.
Today begins a series examining the changes that have and are occuring in third places. First up is a closer look at the shift from physical to digital spaces and the growth of online communities.
In the past 35 years, the concept of the third place has expanded beyond the traditional physical spaces that Ray Oldenburg originally described. This transformation is largely due to the rise of the internet and digital technologies, which have enabled new forms of interaction and community-building. Here’s a deeper dive into the shift from physical to digital spaces.
The Growth of Online Communities
Oldenburg’s third place was about informal public spaces where individuals could gather, relax, and build social connections outside of home and work. In the digital age, online communities have emerged as new forms of these third places, offering similar opportunities for connection, albeit without the need for physical proximity. Key factors include:
Social Media Platforms: Sites like Facebook, X, Instagram, and TicTok have allowed people to form and maintain relationships in virtual environments. These platforms create communities based on shared interests, hobbies, or experiences, replacing some of the functions of physical third places. For example, a Facebook group for photography enthusiasts can foster a sense of community in much the same way a local photography club would.
Forums and Discussion Boards: Reddit, one of the largest online forums, has thousands of “subreddits” (topic-based communities) where people engage in informal discussions. Subreddits function like virtual third places by facilitating regular, unstructured social interaction, much like a neighborhood café or pub might. Similarly, platforms like Stack Overflow or specialized online forums serve as gathering spaces for specific interest groups.
Video Games and Virtual Worlds: Online multiplayer games like World of Warcraft, Fortnite, or Animal Crossing have evolved into virtual third places where people not only play but also socialize. These games offer platforms for spontaneous conversations, casual interaction, and even real-world friendships, replicating the social environment of physical third places.
These online spaces transcend geographical barriers, allowing people from all over the world to interact, which has fundamentally changed how we think about community. Unlike traditional third places, which are typically local and require physical presence, digital third places allow for global, virtual connections that can be maintained in real time.
Hybrid Spaces: The Merging of Physical and Digital Worlds
Physical third places increasingly have a digital component, creating “hybrid spaces” where the physical and virtual worlds overlap. Several examples highlight this trend:
Cafés and Co-working Spaces with Wi-Fi: Traditional third places like cafés have evolved in response to the demand for connectivity. Wi-Fi access has turned these venues into hybrid spaces where people may engage in digital work or online conversations while physically sharing the space with others. For example, someone might sit in a café and participate in an online meeting while being surrounded by people doing the same, thus blending virtual and in-person interaction.
Smartphone Use in Physical Spaces: In third places such as parks, bars, or cafés, the use of smartphones has created a dual layer of interaction. People may be physically present in these spaces while simultaneously engaging in online conversations through messaging apps, social media, or video calls. This constant digital connection can, at times, diminish face-to-face interactions, but it also allows individuals to maintain multiple layers of social interaction (virtual and in-person) simultaneously.
Event Streaming and Digital Participation: Events that take place in physical third places, such as live music performances, talks, or meetups, are often streamed online or hosted simultaneously on platforms like Zoom or YouTube Live. This enables people who are not physically present to participate and engage with others attending virtually, creating a hybrid social environment. In this sense, third places are no longer confined to physical attendance; they now have digital extensions.
Augmented Reality (AR) and Virtual Reality (VR): Emerging technologies like AR and VR have started to blend the physical and virtual worlds even further. Apps like Pokémon GO, for instance, encourage people to go outside and interact with their physical environment while also engaging in a shared digital experience. In the future, VR environments could replicate the social dynamics of physical third places even more closely by creating immersive spaces where people can gather and interact with realistic avatars.
Changing Nature of Interaction
The move to digital third places has affected the nature and quality of social interactions. While online communities can provide valuable spaces for connection, they come with distinct differences compared to physical third places:
Anonymity and Pseudonymity: In many online communities, participants can remain anonymous or use pseudonyms, which can change the dynamics of social interaction. While this can encourage openness and honesty, it can also lead to superficial or less emotionally engaging interactions compared to the face-to-face connections fostered in traditional third places.
Global Scale: Online communities have no geographic boundaries, which allows people to interact with others from vastly different cultures and backgrounds. This is a significant expansion of Oldenburg’s concept, which was originally more localized. However, the global nature of online interaction can also mean that relationships in digital third places may lack the same depth and immediacy as local, physical third places.
Asynchronous Communication: Online third places often enable asynchronous communication, where participants don’t have to be online simultaneously to interact. Platforms like Reddit, email, or forums allow conversations to unfold over time, which differs from the real-time interactions in physical third places. This flexibility can be both a strength (as it accommodates people in different time zones) and a limitation (as it may lack the spontaneity of face-to-face exchanges).
Impact of Digital Third Places on Traditional Social Spaces
The rise of digital third places has led to some displacement of physical ones, but it has also enhanced the diversity of social spaces available to people:
Decline in Face-to-Face Interaction: With the ability to connect virtually, some people may feel less compelled to visit traditional third places. For example, rather than meeting friends at a local bar, individuals might prefer to socialize through a group video chat or online game, especially if those friends live far away.
Complementary Role of Digital Spaces: In some cases, digital third places complement rather than replace physical ones. For example, people might meet online in a Reddit group, then arrange in-person meetups at local venues, using the digital space as a tool to facilitate face-to-face interactions.
New Forms of Social Capital: Digital third places have given rise to new forms of social capital, particularly in online communities where trust and reputation are built through consistent interaction. Platforms like Reddit or gaming forums create a sense of belonging, where users establish identity and build relationships based on shared interests or goals, even though they may never meet in person.
While traditional physical third places still exist and remain essential, the rise of digital spaces has expanded and diversified where and how people engage in informal social interaction. These online and hybrid spaces meet many of the same needs as Oldenburg’s original concept – offering a sense of community, belonging, and unstructured conversation – while adapting to the realities of a more connected, yet geographically dispersed, modern world. Digital third places are not mere replacements for physical spaces but have become an integral part of the broader ecosystem of how humans connect and interact.
I have long admired the writings of Henri Nouwen. I became acquainted with his work during seminary in the early 1980s; his powerful and simple words have spoken to me deeply over the years. During the past month I have been reading old favorites along with some new-to-me works.
Marriage is not that two people love each other so much that they can find God in each other, but that God loves them so much that they can discover each other as living reminders of God’s presence.
Henri Nouwen
The essence of love extends far beyond personal relationships. According to spiritual understanding, love fundamentally begins with our connection to God. We are capable of loving others because we have first experienced God’s unconditional and limitless love within ourselves.
In human relationships – especially through marriage – people discover a love that transcends individual capabilities. These connections are not primarily about personal compatibility or shared goals, but about revealing a greater divine love. Each nuance of the relationship becomes a window through which we can glimpse the infinite love of God.
The concept of a “person” is particularly meaningful in this context. Derived from Latin words meaning “to sound through,” a person is essentially a conduit for expressing a love larger than themselves. When we tell someone “I love you,” we are essentially saying, “You are a pathway through which I can perceive God’s infinite love.”
Intimate relationships are not about finding complete fulfillment in another person, but about recognizing the divine presence in each other. In marriage, for instance, the bond is not created because two people love each other perfectly, but because God’s love holds them together. The relationship becomes a living testament to God’s presence, creating a space of hospitality and connection.
When we have discovered God within ourselves – in our solitude and inner depths – we can then recognize the divine presence in others. It’s a profound mutual recognition where “love speaks to love, and God speaks to God.”
This perspective transforms how we understand human connections. Marriage is not just personal interactions, but sacred opportunities to manifest God’s love. Each part of the relationship becomes a collaborative effort to make divine love visible in the world.
The key insight is that love is fundamentally relational and transcendent. We are not complete in ourselves nor do we complete each other, but are interconnected through a greater love. Our limitations become opportunities for divine love to shine through. Each person becomes a “window” through which the infinite can be glimpsed.
This understanding reframes human relationships as spiritual experiences. They are not just about personal satisfaction or meeting individual needs, but about participating in a broader, more expansive love. Our connections become acts of revelation, showing how God’s unconditional love can be experienced and shared.
The Christian life is essentially a journey of making God’s presence tangible through love. It’s about recognizing the divine in ourselves and in others, and creating spaces where that love can be celebrated and experienced.
Ultimately, we need to see relationships not as ends in themselves, but as sacred pathways to understanding a love that is infinite, unconditional, and transformative. Each interaction becomes an opportunity to reflect and experience the profound, all-embracing love of God.
Marriage is not a lifelong attraction of two individuals to each other, but a call for two people to witness together to God’s love. . . . [The] intimacy of marriage itself is an intimacy that is based on the common participation in a love greater than the love two people can offer each other. They are brought together, indeed, as two prayerful hands extended toward God and forming in this way a home for God in this world.
It is into this deeply tired world of ours that God sends Jesus to speak the voice of love. Jesus says, “Follow me. Don’t keep running around. Follow me. Don’t just sit there. Follow me.”
Henri Nouwen
Following Jesus explores the spiritual concept of truly following Jesus, addressing a common human tendency to either be constantly busy or completely inactive. The author observes that many people live life in two extreme modes: perpetual restlessness or complete disengagement.
In the first mode, individuals are constantly moving, doing numerous activities, attending events, and meeting people, yet feeling a profound sense of meaninglessness. They’re exhausted by their own busyness, often unable to articulate what they’re actually accomplishing. This restless wandering leads to deep fatigue and a sense of being lived, rather than living purposefully.
The alternative state is total passivity, where people give up on their pursuits and sink into a state of apathy. They lose interest in life, spending time watching television, sleeping, or engaging in mindless activities. Some might seek escape through substances or other distractions, but fundamentally, they feel empty and unmotivated.
The core message is that Jesus offers a transformative alternative to these states through a gentle, loving call to “follow me.” This invitation isn’t forceful but is a sensitive, quiet voice that can reshape one’s entire existence. When people hear and respond to this call, their lives gain focus, purpose, and meaning. The wandering and listlessness are replaced by a clear direction and renewed excitement.
Author Henri Nouwen encourages readers to quiet themselves and listen for this voice of love, which speaks personally and intimately, calling each individual by name and offering a path out of spiritual exhaustion into a meaningful, directed life.
Henri Nouwen’s Following Jesus is a tender meditation on Christian discipleship that invites readers into a deeply personal and transformative journey of faith. At its core, the book is less a theological treatise and more a compassionate invitation to experience Christ’s love in the most intimate ways possible.
Nouwen begins by challenging the conventional understanding of following Jesus. It’s not about rigid adherence to rules or performing grand religious gestures, but about cultivating a profound, personal relationship with Christ. He emphasizes that discipleship is fundamentally about love – a love that transforms, heals, and provides radical hope.
Throughout the book, Nouwen explores several key themes of Christian discipleship. He speaks eloquently about vulnerability, suggesting that true following of Jesus means embracing our own brokenness and weakness. Instead of seeing our limitations as obstacles, Nouwen encourages readers to view them as sacred spaces where God’s grace can most powerfully manifest.
The spiritual journey, as Nouwen describes it, is not a linear path but a continuous process of surrender and discovery. He draws beautiful parallels between Jesus’s own life and the challenges believers face, highlighting that following Christ means walking a path of both profound joy and deep suffering. This isn’t a journey of achievement, but of continuous becoming – allowing oneself to be shaped by divine love.
Nouwen also delves into the importance of community and compassion. Following Jesus, he argues, isn’t a solitary endeavor but a collective experience of transformation. We grow closer to Christ not by isolating ourselves, but by opening our hearts to others, especially those who are marginalized or suffering. He challenges readers to see Christ in every person, particularly those society often overlooks.
Prayer and contemplation are central to Nouwen’s understanding of discipleship. He doesn’t present them as dutiful practices, but as intimate conversations with a loving God. These moments of stillness, he suggests, are where we truly learn to listen and align our hearts with divine purpose.
Another profound aspect of the book is Nouwen’s exploration of spiritual poverty. He suggests that truly following Jesus means letting go of our need for control, status, and self-sufficiency. It’s about creating space within ourselves for God’s grace to work – a radical act of trust and surrender.
Nouwen’s writing is characteristically gentle and deeply personal. He doesn’t lecture but invites readers into a reflective journey, sharing his own struggles and insights with remarkable honesty. His words feel like a compassionate conversation with a wise, loving spiritual mentor who understands the complexities of human faith.
The book ultimately presents following Jesus as a dynamic, living relationship rather than a static set of beliefs. It’s an ongoing dialogue of love, transformation, and grace. Nouwen reminds us that discipleship isn’t about perfection, but about persistent, humble openness to God’s transformative power.
For anyone seeking a more intimate, authentic understanding of Christian faith, Following Jesus offers a profoundly moving roadmap. It’s an invitation to experience divine love not as a distant concept, but as a lived, breathed reality that can reshape our entire existence.
Part of a regular series on 27gen, entitled Wednesday Weekly Reader.
During my elementary school years one of the things I looked forward to the most was the delivery of “My Weekly Reader,” a weekly educational magazine designed for children and containing news-based current events.
It became a regular part of my love for reading, and helped develop my curiosity about the world around us.
Bridges are more than mere structures of steel and stone. They are powerful metaphors for life’s most profound journeys – connecting what was to what could be, spanning the uncertain spaces between known and unknown landscapes.
When we stand at the beginning of a bridge, the view can be intimidating. The planks beneath our feet might feel unstable, the distance to the other side shrouded in mist. Life’s transitions often feel exactly like this – a trembling moment of uncertainty, where the past recedes behind us and the future remains undefined.
Each bridge has its own character. Some are sturdy suspension bridges, their cables providing intricate support systems. Others are simple wooden crossings, requiring careful, deliberate steps. Similarly, our personal transitions vary – some are carefully engineered transformations, others spontaneous leaps of faith.
The act of crossing requires courage. Just as a bridge walker must trust the engineering beneath their feet, we must trust our own resilience during life’s changes. The wooden boards might creak, the wind might buffet us, but forward movement is possible. Each step is an act of trust – in ourselves, in the path we’ve chosen, in the possibility of what awaits.
Bridges connect more than physical spaces; they connect states of being. Leaving a job, ending a relationship, moving to a new city – these are bridge moments. We’re suspended between what we knew and what we’re becoming. The middle of the bridge is often the most vulnerable place, where we can look back at familiar terrain or gaze forward into uncharted territory.
Some bridges are long, requiring endurance. Others are short, demanding only a moment of boldness. Some have guardrails, offering security, while others challenge us to balance with nothing but our own determination. Life’s transitions mirror these bridge experiences – some transformations are gradual and supported, others demand we leap with minimal safety nets.
Importantly, not all bridge crossings are solitary journeys. Some bridges are wide enough for companions. Friends, family, mentors – they can walk alongside us, offering encouragement, sharing the weight of uncertainty. Their presence doesn’t eliminate the challenge, but it transforms the crossing from a potentially lonely trek into a shared adventure.
When we finally reach the other side, we are changed. The bridge was never just about getting from one point to another, but about the transformation occurring with each step. We arrive different – more resilient, more knowing, with a broader perspective of the landscape we’ve traversed.
Rather then focusing on the obstacle in your path, focus on the bridge over the obstacle.
Mary Lou Retton
Life’s bridges remind us: transitions are not obstacles, but opportunities. They are not about perfect, fearless passage, but about moving forward with authenticity, courage, and hope.
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