Rooted Together: Relationship Wisdom from Aspens and Redwoods

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The natural world often provides powerful metaphors for understanding human relationships. Two remarkable tree species – aspens and redwoods – offer particularly compelling lessons about connection, resilience, and growth. By examining how these trees thrive, we can gain insights into building and nurturing meaningful relationships.

Aspen Trees: The Power of Underground Connection

What appears to be a forest of individual aspen trees is actually a single living organism. Each “tree” is a stem sprouting from an extensive underground root system. This phenomenon, called a clonal colony, means that aspens are among the largest and oldest living organisms on Earth.

Lessons from Aspen Relationships:

Deep, Invisible Connections

Like aspen root systems, the strongest relationships often have connections that run deeper than what’s visible on the surface. The foundations of trust, shared history, and mutual understanding may not be apparent to outside observers but provide essential stability.

Collective Resilience 

When one aspen stem faces challenges—whether drought, disease, or fire—resources are redirected through the root system to support it. Similarly, healthy relationships involve stepping up during difficult times, offering emotional support, practical help, or simply presence when partners face hardship.

Growth Through Diversity 

Aspen colonies thrive by sending up stems of different ages and sizes. This diversity ensures the colony’s survival through varying conditions. Relationships flourish when we appreciate and leverage our differences rather than expecting uniformity.

Communication Networks 

Aspens share nutrients and chemical signals through their roots. This underground “conversation” helps the colony respond to threats and opportunities. Open, honest communication serves a similar purpose in human relationships, allowing for coordinated responses to life’s challenges.

Redwood Trees: The Strength of Community

Coastal redwoods, the world’s tallest trees, offer different but equally powerful relationship metaphors. Despite their immense height (potentially exceeding 350 feet), these giants have surprisingly shallow root systems. Their secret? The roots interlock with neighboring trees.

Lessons from Redwood Relationships:

Strength Through Interdependence 

Redwoods stay upright during storms because their roots intertwine with neighboring trees, creating a supportive network spanning acres. This teaches us that independence and interdependence aren’t mutually exclusive—the strongest individuals often have the most robust support networks.

Creating Protected Space 

Redwood groves create their own microclimate, capturing fog and moderating temperature. The interior of a redwood forest feels distinctly different from surrounding areas. Healthy relationships similarly create a “microclimate”—a safe space where both parties can thrive away from external pressures.

Patience and Longevity 

Redwoods can live over 2,000 years, growing steadily through centuries. This reminds us that meaningful relationships aren’t built overnight. The most rewarding connections develop through consistent care and attention over time.

Regenerative Capacity  

Redwoods can sprout new trees from fallen trunks or roots, demonstrating remarkable regenerative ability. Similarly, healthy relationships can recover from setbacks, sometimes growing stronger through the process of healing and renewal.

Cultivating Tree-Inspired Relationships

How can we apply these natural metaphors to strengthen our own relationships?

Nurture Root Systems – Just as trees invest energy below ground, invest in the invisible foundations of your relationships. Create shared experiences, develop trust through reliability, and establish meaningful traditions that strengthen your connections.

Practice Resource Sharing – Trees share nutrients through their roots, ensuring collective survival. In relationships, share your resources—whether time, emotional support, knowledge, or practical assistance—especially when your partner faces challenges.

Embrace Interdependence – Recognize that seeking support isn’t weakness but wisdom. Like redwoods interlocking roots, allow your support networks to bolster you, and offer the same to others.

Create Safe Environments – Just as tree canopies create protective microclimates, foster environments where vulnerability, authenticity, and growth are encouraged. Be intentional about creating spaces where relationships can flourish.

Take the Long View – Trees measure growth in decades, not days. Similarly, nurture your relationships with patience, recognizing that meaningful connections develop and deepen over time.

Aspen and redwood trees remind us that the strongest living things on our planet thrive not through isolation but through connection. Whether through the aspen’s hidden root system or the redwood’s interlocking network, these trees demonstrate that resilience comes through relationship.

By applying these natural metaphors to our own lives, we can build connections that weather storms, adapt to changing circumstances, and provide mutual support for decades to come. Like these magnificent trees, we grow stronger together than we ever could alone.

The Danger of Being the Brightest Person in the Room

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72 years ago this month, two scientists walked into their neighborhood pub in Cambridge, England, ordered their drinks, and one of them announced to the patrons “We have found the secret to life.”

This was no lie – that morning, Cambridge University scientists James D. Watson and Frances H.C. Crick had discovered the double-helix structure of DNA, the biological material that carries life’s genetic information.

On the fiftieth anniversary of that discovery, Watson took part in an interview inquiring about the aspects of their work that had led them to solve the problem ahead of an array of other highly accomplished and recognized rival scientists.

Along with the expected answers – they identified the most important part of the problem, they were passionate about their work, they devoted themselves single-mindedly to the task, they were willing to attempt approaches outside their area of familiarity – came this surprise:

Watson said that he and Crick had cracked the elusive code for DNA primarily because they were not the most intelligent scientists pursuing the answer.

Watson went on to explain that the most intelligent person working on the project in those days was Rosalind Franklin, a British scientist working in Paris at the time. According to Watson, Rosalind was so intelligent that she rarely sought advice. And if you’re the brightest person in the room, then you’re in trouble.

Watson’s comment describes exactly the error that many leaders in today’s organizations make: they believe that they are the best-informed, most-experienced, or most-skilled person in the group. They may be, but studies have repeatedly shown that the approaches and outcomes of groups who cooperate in seeking a solution are not just better than the average member working along, they are even better than the group’s best problem solver working alone.

Far too often, leaders – who by virtue of greater experience, skill, and wisdom, deem themselves the ablest problem solver in the group – fail to ask for input from team members.

  • Lone decision makers can’t match the diversity of knowledge and perspectives of a team
  • Input from others can stimulate thinking processes that wouldn’t develop on their own
  • Individual thinkers can’t parallel process – dividing parts of the problem among many members

Trying to discover the meaning of life? How about something much simpler, like a new funding initiative to increase service to one of your target groups? Or any problem facing your team?

Don’t forget the danger of being the brightest person in the room.

Still Choosing Us: A Valentine’s Day Reflection on Marriage’s Second Half

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This Valentine’s Day brings another reminder to Anita and I that we are well into the second half of marriage. For starters, we celebrated 45 years of marriage in December.

Next, over the last six weeks, we found ourselves providing care for each other as first I spent 17 days in the hospital, culminating in surgery on January 10. Then, in a show of togetherness, Anita spent 3 days in the hospital, ending up with the identical surgery exactly a month later on February 10.

If that’s not love…

It may be a fact (sadly) that our bodies are getting a little bit older, and in need of care, but I choose to take the optimistic road and say this DOES NOT make us old! 

We spent the Christmas holidays with 21 of us spending five days together. It took our house and an Airbnb down the street, but we had a wonderful, crazy time together. 10 adults, 11 children, and two dogs – we ended the holidays tired in every sense of the word but-oh-so happy.

As you can read about it here and here, Anita and I had a great time planning, preparing, and pulling the 2024 #AdamsFamilyExperience Christmas off.

As the last family left (I was already in the hospital), Anita came to visit and we both slept the afternoon away. When we woke up, we both made a remark to the tune of, “We’re absolutely worn out – when can we do it again?”

With all that said, our marriage relationship is changing. Yes, we will be doting grandparents to 11 grandchildren; yes, we will still be involved in our four children’s lives; yes, we anticipate lots of changes as they all grow up. 

But slowly, surely, we are discovering that we are moving into a season that is more partner-focused than child-focused.

Just what will that mean? Maybe some of the following:

  • Maximizing individual strengths for the benefit of both of us
  • Finding time to be companions
  • Understanding that compatibility doesn’t always mean agreement
  • Continually adjusting to each other
  • Striving to be partner focused
  • Share rather than divide
  • Make creative use of conflict
  • Work hard at communicating
  • Commitment to continued growth

So here it is Valentine’s Day and I am so thankful that I have the blessing of being married to Anita and sharing it with her. I am grateful for our first half of marriage and celebrations, but I’m excited about our second half!

How can you make the second half of your marriage better than the first?

Loosely defined, the second half of marriage comes when your kids have left home; it may also be marked by decisions a couple is making about their parent’s health and lifestyle.

We’ve had both in the past few years. 

As is my practice, I found a great resource to help this journey: David and Claudia Arp’s wonderful book The Second Half of Marriage. In their own words, here are eight strategies that will help every long-term couple make the most of their marriage:

  1. Let go of past marital disappointments, forgive each other and commit to making the rest of your marriage the best. Are you willing to let go of unmet expectations and unrealistic dreams? Or your mate’s little irritating habits that don’t seem to be disappearing? Giving up lost dreams and overlooking each other’s imperfections are positive steps toward forgiving past hurts and moving on in your marriage.
  2. Create a marriage that is partner-focused rather than child-focused. The tendency, once the kids leave, is to focus on new activities rather than on each other, but these activities can keep you from crafting a more intimate relationship. Try to focus more time and attention on your spouse.
  3. Maintain effective communication that allows you to express your deepest feelings, joys and concerns. Sometimes what worked when the kids were home doesn’t work as well now that the kids are gone. After all, you always had the children to talk about. Now that it’s just the two of you, you might need to upgrade your communication skills.
  4. Use anger and conflict creatively to build your relationship. With the kids gone, many couples find that issues they assumed were resolved resurface. Certain negative patterns of interaction that developed over the years can be deadly for an empty-nest marriage. Learn how to deal with issues and process anger in ways that build your relationship.
  5. Build a deeper friendship and enjoy your spouse. Now is a great time to deepen your friendship with each other and stretch your boundaries to prevent boredom. Think of ways to put more fun in your marriage.
  6. Renew romance and restore a pleasurable sexual relationship. Many people assume that as people grow older they lose interest in sex, but our survey results suggest otherwise. The quality of your love life is not so much a matter of performance as it is an integral part of the relationship. Take care of your health and renew romance even while acknowledging the inevitable changes that come with aging.
  7. Adjust to changing roles with aging parents and adult children. Release your children, then reconnect with them on an adult level. At the same time, your relationship with your parents may need a little altering, too. The effort you expend in forging better relationships with loved ones on both ends of the generational seesaw is well worth it.
  8. Evaluate where you are on your spiritual pilgrimage. Research indicates that most people, as they age and consider death, become more religious because they think more about what it all means. Why not consider this time of transition as an opportunity to talk more openly and regularly about your relationship with Christ: what it means, why it matters, and what it means for your marriage? Take time to serve others, too, and pass along some of the wisdom you have gained.

We’re approaching the second half of marriage as a time of learning about each other and about God’s long-term plans for our marriage. And a time of building together – sharing dreams, making commitments, and working towards a more satisfying union.

It’s day 16,506 for Anita and me – and our journey together continues!

Happy Valentines Day, Anita!

Busy is Not Better: Finding Peace in a Culture of Speed

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In a world that increasingly celebrates busyness and equates worth with productivity, John Mark Comer’s The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry is a timely and profound counterargument. This spiritual formation book, published in 2019, challenges the modern obsession with speed and efficiency by proposing a radical yet simple solution: slow down.

Through personal anecdotes, theological insights, and practical wisdom, Comer explores how the contemporary culture of hurry is not just exhausting us physically but impoverishing us spiritually. His work serves as both a cultural critique and a practical guide for those seeking to escape the crushing weight of an overcommitted, overscheduled life.

Is it possible that our productivity could actually be increased by first slowing down?

The Quick Summary – The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer

 “Who am I becoming?”

That was the question nagging pastor and author John Mark Comer. Outwardly, he appeared successful. But inwardly, things weren’t pretty. So he turned to a trusted mentor for guidance and heard these words:

“Ruthlessly eliminate hurry from your life. Hurry is the great enemy of the spiritual life.”

It wasn’t the response he expected, but it was – and continues to be – the answer he needs. Too often we treat the symptoms of toxicity in our modern world instead of trying to pinpoint the cause. A growing number of voices are pointing at hurry, or busyness, as a root of much evil.

Within the pages of this book, you’ll find a fascinating roadmap to staying emotionally healthy and spiritually alive in the chaos of the modern world.

A SIMPLE SOLUTION

According to author John Mark Comer, the new normal of hurried digital distraction is robbing us of the ability to be present:

  • Present to God.
  • Present to other people.
  • Present to all that is good, beautiful, and true in our world.
  • Even present to our own souls.

The noise of the modern world makes us deaf to the voice of God, drowning out the one input we most need.

Whatever you call them: habits, practices, or spiritual disciplines are how we follow Jesus. How we adopt His lifestyle. How we create space for emotional health and spiritual life.

John Mark Comer

And like all habits, they are a means to an end. The end is life to the full with Jesus. The end is to spend every waking moment in the conscious enjoyment of Jesus’ company, to spend our entire lives with the most loving, joyful, peaceful person to ever live.

Silence and solitude

Here’s to tomorrow morning, six o’clock. Coffee, the chair by the window, the window by the tree. Time to breathe. A psalm and story from the Gospels. Hearing the Father’s voice. Pouring out my own. Or just sitting, resting. Maybe I’ll hear a word from God that will alter my destiny; maybe I’ll just process my anger over something that’s bothering me. Maybe I’ll feel my mind settle like untouched water; maybe my mind will ricochet from thought to thought, and never come to rest. If so, that’s fine. I’ll be back, same time tomorrow. Starting my day in the quiet place.

Sabbath

If your story is anything like mine, Sabbath will take you a little while to master. After all, Shabbat is a verb. It’s something you do. A practice, a skill you hone. To begin, just set aside a day. Clear your schedule. Turn off your phone! Say a prayer to invite the Holy Spirit to pastor you into His presence. And then? Rest and worship. In whatever way is life giving for your soul. And something happens about halfway through the day, something hard to put language to. It’s like my should catches up to my body. Like some deep part of me that got beat up and drowned out by meetings and email and Twitter and relational conflict and the difficulty of life comes back to the surface of my heat. I feel free. And at the end of the day when I turn my phone back on and reenter the modern world, I do so slowly. And, wow, does that ever feel good.

Simplicity

The goal isn’t just to declutter your closet or garage but to declutter your life. To clear away the myriad of distractions that ratchet up our anxiety, feed us an endless stream of mind-numbing drivel, and anesthetize us to what really matters. To follow Jesus, especially in the Western world, is to live in that same tension between grateful, happy enjoyment of nice, beautiful things, and simplicity. And when to err on the side of generous, simple living. The truth is you can be happy right here, right now, “through Christ who strengthens me,” meaning through investing your resources in ongoing relational connections to Jesus. Right now you have everything you need to live a happy, content life; you have access to the Father. To His loving attention.

Slowing

The basic idea behind the practice of slowing is this: slow down your body, slow down your life. If we can slow down both our minds and bodies – the pace at which we think and the pace at which we move our bodies through the world – maybe we can slow down our souls to a pace at which they can “taste and see the the Lord is good.” John Ortberg and Richard Foster both label this emerging practice the spiritual discipline of “slowing.” Ortberg defined it as “cultivating patience by deliberately choosing to place ourselves in positions where we have to wait. There’s more to life than an increase in speed. Life is right under our noses, waiting to be enjoyed.

John Mark Comer, The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry

Comer’s writing style is engaging and relatable, blending historical Christian wisdom with contemporary cultural analysis. He draws from diverse sources, including the Desert Fathers, Eugene Peterson, and modern psychology, while maintaining an accessible tone that feels like a conversation with a wise friend.

The book’s strengths lie in its practical applications and Comer’s vulnerability about his own struggles. He doesn’t just theorize about slowing down; he provides concrete steps and real-world examples. His insights about how technology and social media contribute to our collective hurry sickness are particularly astute.

What makes this book stand out is its timing and relevance. In an era where burnout is endemic and anxiety levels are soaring, Comer’s message feels prophetic. He’s not just addressing individual wellness but diagnosing a broader cultural malady.

The book succeeds in making a compelling case that hurry is not just a scheduling problem but a spiritual one. It challenges readers to consider how their pace of life affects their spiritual and emotional wellbeing, relationships, and overall quality of life.

For those feeling overwhelmed by the pace of modern life, “The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry” offers both a theoretical framework for understanding their condition and practical tools for making changes. While the solutions Comer proposes are radical by modern standards, he makes a convincing argument that such radical measures are exactly what we need.

The book is ultimately a call to countercultural living, suggesting that the path to a meaningful life might not be found in doing more faster, but in doing less slower.

A NEXT STEP

John Mark Comer believes that unlike other types of habits, the practices of Jesus aren’t just exercises for your mind and body to grow their willpower muscle and cultivate character. They are far more: they are how we open our minds and bodies to a power far beyond our own and effect change.

The four disciplines listed above may seem like a strange way to become more productive, but in the sugar-rush of the busy lives we are leading, slowing down will actually help you become better at what you do.

For excellent guidance on these disciplines, be sure to download the author’s workbook to accompany his book.

Toward which of the four disciplines are you feeling led by the Holy Spirit? What is one step to take today?

Part of a regular series on 27gen, entitled Wednesday Weekly Reader

During my elementary school years one of the things I looked forward to the most was the delivery of “My Weekly Reader,” a weekly educational magazine designed for children and containing news-based, current events.

It became a regular part of my love for reading, and helped develop my curiosity about the world around us.

Along with early and ongoing encouragement from my parents – especially my father – reading was established as a passion in my life that I was happy to continually learn from, share with my children, and watch them share with their children.

Reading keeps our minds alive and growing.

Becoming a Beginner Again: Finding New Purpose in Life’s Second Act

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The journey through midlife (ages 45-65) often brings us to an unexpected crossroads – one where we’re invited to transform our relationship with success, purpose, and personal growth. While our earlier years might have been dominated by external measures of achievement (what we do, what others think, what we own, and what we control), midlife presents an opportunity for a profound shift in perspective.

Developmental psychologist Erik Erikson suggests a powerful alternative mindset: “I am what survives me.” This simple yet profound reframing encourages us to consider our legacy and impact on future generations, moving beyond immediate gratification to focus on lasting contribution.

Think of yourself as a plant that occasionally needs repotting to flourish. Throughout our careers, we accumulate valuable seeds of knowledge and wisdom. Midlife offers the perfect opportunity to transplant these seeds into new soil, allowing us to grow in different directions. With decades of experience, we’re better equipped to recognize the environments where our talents will thrive.

The modern workplace increasingly supports this evolution. The pandemic accelerated the trend toward flexible work arrangements, with more companies offering phased retirement options. This shift acknowledges that stepping back from full-time work doesn’t mean retiring completely – instead, it’s an invitation to reimagine how we can apply our skills and knowledge in new ways.

One of the most valuable contributions older professionals can make is teaching and mentoring. As Arthur C. Brooks notes, the best synthesizers and explainers of complex ideas tend to be in their mid-60s or older. This makes intuitive sense – wisdom accumulated over decades creates natural teachers. Beyond technical expertise, older professionals offer “invisible productivity” – the ability to elevate the performance of entire teams through their well-developed social skills and emotional intelligence.

The key to thriving in this new chapter lies in becoming a beginner again. While it might seem counterintuitive to start fresh when you’ve mastered certain skills, introducing novelty into your life creates distinct memories and actually slows down your perception of time. When we engage in new activities that put us in a state of flow, we temporarily lose track of time, creating a psychological pause in aging.

Curiosity plays a crucial role in this reinvention process. Like hunger or thirst, curiosity creates a dopamine-fueled motivation to seek information and learn. Particularly valuable is what author Jeff Wetzler calls “connective curiosity” – the desire to understand others’ thoughts, experiences, and feelings. This form of curiosity, rooted in the Latin word for “care,” becomes an act of genuine interest in others that deepens relationships and learning opportunities.

To maintain your curiosity, practice what Simon T. Bailey calls “vujá dé” – the opposite of déjà vu. This means seeing familiar situations with fresh eyes and understanding common experiences in new ways. It’s about finding extraordinary insights in ordinary moments through careful observation and openness to new perspectives.

I’m reminded of a quote by Alexandra Horowitz: In childhood, then, attention is brightened by two features: children’s neophilia (love of new things) and the fact that, as young people, they simply haven’t seen it all before.

Can you learn to have the curiosity of a child again?

Having rediscovered this curiosity, what does that mean for our legacy?

Most of us want to leave a legacy, even in the smallest ways. Here are five questions that could help define your legacy:

  1. Who will benefit most from what you leave behind?
  2. What invisible but valuable gifts can you offer?
  3. How will you prepare and deliver your legacy?
  4. When is the most meaningful time to share your wisdom?
  5. Why does this matter to you personally?

Here’s some wisdom from David Viscott: “The purpose of life is to discover your gift. The work of life is to develop it. The meaning of life is to give your gift away.” Midlife isn’t about retiring from life – it’s about transitioning from “human doing” to “human being.” It’s an opportunity to move beyond the pursuit of happiness to the practice of joy, finding fulfillment in sharing your accumulated wisdom and experience with others.

My journey of becoming a Modern Elder involves embracing both the wisdom I’ve gained and the beginner’s mind that keeps me growing. By maintaining my curiosity, seeking new challenges, and focusing on meaningful contribution, I am creating a second half of life that’s as rich and rewarding as the first – perhaps even more so.

This transformation doesn’t happen automatically – it requires intentional effort to see familiar situations with new eyes and remain open to learning from others. Surrounding yourself with people who challenge your thinking and illuminate your blind spots helps maintain this growth mindset. As I continue to navigate this transition, I am reminded that my greatest contribution might not be in what I do, but in how I help others grow and develop through my accumulated wisdom and experience.

The Timeless Appeal of LEGO®: Engineering, Creativity, and Play

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Few toys have captured the imagination of generations quite like LEGO®. What began as a small Danish company’s venture into wooden toys in the 1930s transformed into one of the most iconic and beloved building systems in history. In 1958, the modern LEGO® brick was patented, introducing an interlocking system that allowed for limitless creativity and construction. Over the decades, LEGO® has expanded beyond simple bricks, incorporating robotics, architecture, and even real-world engineering principles – making it a staple in both childhood playrooms and professional design studios.

But LEGO® isn’t just for kids. The fascination with these small, colorful bricks extends to adults, engineers, artists, and educators alike. From intricate cityscapes to working mechanical models, LEGO® serves as both a creative outlet and an educational tool, encouraging problem-solving, spatial reasoning, and hands-on learning. The act of “playing” with LEGO® fosters patience, perseverance, and the ability to see failure as a step toward success—valuable lessons in any field, especially engineering.

This brings us to The LEGO® Engineer, a book that dives into the real-world applications of LEGO® as a tool for understanding complex engineering concepts. Whether you’re a lifelong LEGO® enthusiast (like our entire family!) or someone curious about the mechanics behind structures and machines, this book explores how LEGO® models can demonstrate principles of physics, architecture, and design in an accessible, engaging way. Take a closer look at The LEGO® Engineer, its key insights, and what it can teach us about the intersection of creativity and engineering.

In The LEGO® Engineer, you’ll explore how some of humanity’s greatest feats of engineering work, from towering skyscrapers to powerful rockets to speeding bullet trains. Then follow step-by-step instructions to build these marvels with LEGO® bricks as you experience the world of engineering in a fun new way.

How do diesel and electric engines work together to drive massive freight trains? How does a container ship’s bow shape contribute to its fuel efficiency? How do cable-stayed bridges distribute weight differently than suspension bridges? You’ll learn the answers to these engineering questions and more as you build your way through over 30 models, all designed by LEGO® expert Jeff Friesen. Understanding the engineering principles behind these structures will not only help you better appreciate the world around you, but will also help you make your own LEGO® builds more realistic.

The LEGO® Engineer by Jeff Friesen is an engaging and visually captivating exploration of engineering principles through the lens of LEGO® building. Friesen, a renowned LEGO® artist and photographer, takes readers on a journey through real-world engineering marvels, breaking down complex mechanical and structural concepts into stunning LEGO® models. The book features step-by-step instructions for building a variety of engineering-inspired LEGO® creations, from bridges and skyscrapers to locomotives and futuristic vehicles. Each model is accompanied by explanations of the engineering principles that make these structures work in real life, making the book an educational resource as well as an inspiration for builders of all ages.

Divided into sections based on different fields of engineering – including civil, mechanical, and aerospace engineering – The LEGO® Engineer blends creativity with technical insight. Whether showcasing the suspension systems of trains or the aerodynamics of high-speed transport, the book presents each topic with clear visuals and concise, engaging explanations.

The LEGO® Engineer is a fantastic addition to the world of LEGO® books, especially for those interested in the intersection of creativity and STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering, and Mathematics). Friesen masterfully balances fun and education, making engineering concepts accessible to LEGO® enthusiasts, students, and even professional engineers looking for a unique way to visualize mechanics.

Here are a few things that stand out in the book:

  • Stunning Visuals: The photography in this book is exceptional, making it a pleasure to browse even if you don’t plan to build every model.
  • Clear Explanations: Engineering principles are broken down in an easy-to-understand manner, making the book suitable for beginners while still offering depth for more advanced readers.
  • Step-by-Step Instructions: The book includes detailed guides for building various LEGO® models, encouraging hands-on learning.
  • Inspiration for Creativity: Even beyond the provided models, the book sparks ideas for custom LEGO® creations based on real-world engineering challenges.

A couple of items that only the nerdiest LEGO® builder might take issue with:

  • Limited to Smaller Builds: While the models are impressive, they are relatively small in scale. Readers looking for large, intricate builds may need to expand on Friesen’s concepts themselves.
  • Not a Deep Engineering Textbook: While the explanations are insightful, this book is more of an introduction to engineering principles rather than an in-depth technical guide.

The LEGO® Engineer is a must-read for LEGO® fans, aspiring engineers, and educators looking to make STEM topics more engaging. Jeff Friesen has crafted a book that is both visually stunning and intellectually stimulating, proving that LEGO® is much more than a toy – it’s a tool for learning, innovation, and creativity. Whether you’re a seasoned builder or a newcomer looking to expand your skills, this book is an inspiring addition to any LEGO® library.

For Baby Boomers who grew up with simple LEGO® brick sets (like me), Gen Xers who marveled at the first themed sets and minifigures, and Millennials who witnessed the rise of LEGO® Technic, Mindstorms, and epic licensed collections (our four kids and their spouses), LEGO® has been a constant source of creativity and connection across generations. Now, as Gen Z and Generation Alpha (our 11 grandchildren) discover the endless possibilities of LEGO® play, families have the opportunity to share not just a toy, but a legacy of imagination, problem-solving, and innovation.

The LEGO® Engineer is a testament to this enduring magic – bridging the past, present, and future by showing how something as simple as interlocking plastic bricks can teach complex engineering concepts, fuel curiosity, and bring generations together in the shared joy of building. Whether you’re revisiting LEGO® as an adult or introducing your grandchildren to its wonders, this book serves as a reminder that LEGO® is more than just a pastime – it’s a gateway to creativity, learning, and lifelong discovery.

Part of a regular series on 27gen, entitled Wednesday Weekly Reader.

During my elementary school years one of the things I looked forward to the most was the delivery of “My Weekly Reader,” a weekly educational magazine designed for children and containing news-based current events.

It became a regular part of my love for reading, and helped develop my curiosity about the world around us.

“Irreplaceable” – A Timely Manifesto for the Power of Place in a Digital World

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How many Americans having ‘surfed’ all the apps and bored by it all, wouldn’t like to slip on a jacket and walk down to the corner and have a beverage with the neighbors? Ah, but we’ve made sure there’s nothing on the corner but another private residence…indeed, nothing at all within easy walking distance.

Ray Oldenburg

In our rush to embrace technological convenience, we often overlook the inherent value of effort and meaningful human connection. While tech leaders champion their innovations as time-saving solutions that eliminate friction and connect the globe, this perspective fails to recognize that some of life’s most rewarding experiences require investment and intentionality. The correlation between effort and meaning suggests that by constantly seeking the path of least resistance, we may be sacrificing depth for convenience, whether in our personal relationships, professional interactions, or broader sense of community.

Do we still need physical places like grocery stores, restaurants, and office buildings? Or will the “Replacement Economy” led by the tech titans and retail giants wipe out these venues in their rapid ascent to unicorn status?

What about museums, universities, and performing arts venues? Considering the power of technology today, can’t we replace these relics with faster, cheaper, and more efficient online tools, apps, and AI?

Through engaging storytelling, human behavior insights, and proven design techniques, Kevin Kelley – an attention architect and cofounder of Shook Kelley, a strategic design firm that pioneered the field of “convening”—unfolds why physical places are essential to civil society, business, and community.

In Irreplaceable, he reveals what it takes for brick-and-mortar establishments to attract an audience and maintain a competitive edge in our increasingly digital world, whether you’re a:

–Retail leader or institutional manager trying to attract people to your offering while keeping the disruptors at bay

–Student of design who values social facilitation over object-oriented design

–Concerned citizen worried about the loss of community and civility

Irreplaceable offers a welcomed antidote to the anti-human digital future crushing our main streets and infiltrating every corner of our lives. It provides a comprehensive roadmap for creating human experiences that have the power to convene and bring friends, neighbors, and strangers together in prosocial environments in ways the digital replacements can’t replicate.

In an era where digital giants seem poised to dominate every aspect of our lives, Kevin Kelley’s Irreplaceable arrives as a compelling argument for the enduring importance of physical spaces. This thoughtful exploration of place-making couldn’t be more timely, as communities worldwide grapple with the erosion of traditional gathering spaces and the social connections they foster.

Kelley structures his book in four well-crafted parts, beginning with a fascinating examination of public markets’ historical role in civilization. Rather than merely waxing nostalgic, he introduces the concept of the “Bonfire Effect” – a framework for understanding why certain spaces naturally draw people together. This opening section also proposes a practical middle ground between funders and designers, acknowledging the real-world tensions in creating successful public spaces.

The second part of the book delves into the psychology of space, exploring how humans perceive and interact with their environment. Kelley’s analysis of why certain spaces energize while others deplete is particularly insightful, offering readers a new lens through which to view their daily environments. His discussion of how physical spaces influence emotional responses and social behavior is both fascinating and practical.

In the book’s third section, “How to Build Your Own Bonfire,” Kelley shifts from theory to practice, providing a comprehensive system for innovation in place-making. His choice to use grocery stores as a primary example proves surprisingly effective – these ubiquitous spaces serve as perfect case studies for understanding human behavior and spatial design. The author convincingly demonstrates how principles learned from supermarket design can inform spaces as diverse as office parks and symphony halls.

The final section may be the book’s most valuable contribution, as it addresses how these principles can be applied with limited resources. Through case studies of a struggling urban district and an unfashionable restaurant chain, Kelley proves that effective place-making isn’t solely the domain of luxury developments or well-funded institutions.

What sets Irreplaceable apart is its clear-eyed assessment of current challenges. Kelley acknowledges the formidable advantages of digital giants like Amazon in terms of price, variety, and convenience. However, rather than admitting defeat, he argues persuasively that physical spaces can compete on different terms – through joy, surprise, and social connection. This isn’t just wishful thinking; he provides practical frameworks for achieving these goals.

The book’s timing is particularly relevant as communities worldwide grapple with increasing polarization and the decline of traditional gathering spaces. Kelley makes a compelling case that the loss of physical meeting places contributes significantly to our current social tensions, though he refreshingly avoids both nostalgia and technological determinism in his analysis.

While the book excels in many areas, some readers might wish for more detailed case studies of successful implementations of Kelley’s principles. Additionally, the focus on commercial and institutional spaces occasionally leaves questions about how these ideas might apply to purely public spaces like parks and plazas.

Despite these minor limitations, Irreplaceable offers valuable insights for a wide range of readers – from business owners and urban planners to architects and community leaders. It’s also surprisingly relevant for parents and educators interested in how physical environments affect learning and social development.

Irreplaceable is more than a design book; it’s a roadmap for creating and maintaining spaces that matter in an increasingly digital world. Kelley’s message is ultimately hopeful: while online platforms may dominate commerce and communication, they cannot replicate the fundamental human experiences that well-designed physical spaces provide. This book offers both the theoretical framework and practical tools needed to ensure these spaces remain truly irreplaceable in our communities.

For anyone concerned with the future of public spaces, community building, or the intersection of physical and digital experiences, Irreplaceable is essential reading. It reminds us that in our rush to embrace digital convenience, we must not forget the irreplaceable value of physical places where human connections flourish.

Breaking Free from Stagnation: The Art of Strategic Reset

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Organizations around the world are plagued by staff burnout, high turnover, and low morale.

How do you turn this around? How do you make things better?

Changing how we work can feel overwhelming. Like trying to budge an enormous boulder, we’re stifled by the gravity of the way we’ve always done things. And we spend so much time fighting fires -and fighting colleagues – that we lack the energy to shift direction.

But with the right strategy, we can move the boulder.

In Reset, Dan Heath explores a framework for getting unstuck and making the changes that matter. The secret is to find “leverage points”: places where a little bit of effort can yield a disproportionate return. Then, we can thoughtfully rearrange our resources to push on those points.

Heath weaves together fascinating examples, ranging from a freakishly effective fast-food drive-thru to a simple trick from couples therapy to an inspirational campaign that saved a million cats.

In Reset, you’ll learn:

-Why the feeling of progress can be your secret weapon in accelerating change

-How leaders can uncover and stop wasteful activities

-Why your team’s motivation is often squandered—and how to avoid that mistake

-How you can jumpstart your change efforts by beginning with a “burst”

The book investigates mysteries: Why the middle is the roughest part of a change effort. Why inefficiency can sometimes accelerate progress. Why getting “buy-in” is the wrong way to think about change.

What if we could unlock forward movement – achieving progress on what matters most – without the need for more resources? The same people, the same assets…but dramatically better results. Yesterday, we were stuck. Today, we reset.

When organizations and individuals find themselves stuck in unsatisfactory situations, the natural instinct is often to push harder or work longer hours. However, as revealed in Reset from Heath’s extensive research spanning over two and a half years, meaningful change requires a more nuanced approach than simply applying more force to existing problems.

Through 240 interviews across various industries, combined with insights from psychology and successful transformation methodologies, Heath developed a clear framework for breaking free from stagnation. The key lies not in working harder, but in working smarter through strategic intervention points.

Think of being stuck as facing a massive boulder blocking your path. No amount of direct force will move it – you need leverage. This metaphor captures the essence of the reset process: identifying precise points where minimal effort can yield maximum results, known as Leverage Points.

However, finding these Leverage Points requires methodical investigation. There are five primary methods for uncovering them. 

  1. Direct observation of work processes can reveal inefficiencies that aren’t apparent from a distance. 
  2. Examining alternative routes to your ultimate goal might uncover easier paths forward.
  3. Studying your own success stories can highlight replicable winning strategies.
  4. Identifying the primary constraint holding you back helps focus efforts where they matter most. 
  5. Taking a holistic view of the system often reveals unexpected opportunities for intervention.

But identifying Leverage Points is only half the battle. The other crucial element is Restacking Resources – redirecting your existing assets, time, and energy toward these strategic pressure points. This process isn’t about finding additional resources; it’s about making smart trade-offs with what you already have.

The challenge lies in the fact that most resources are already committed to ongoing operations. No team member believes their current work is pointless, making it difficult to redirect efforts elsewhere. 

This is where six specific strategies come into play: 

  1. Beginning with an intense focused burst of effort.
  2. Eliminating wasteful activities.
  3. Shifting resources from low-value to high-value work.
  4. Tapping into intrinsic motivation.
  5. Empowering team members to lead change.
  6. Accelerating feedback loops for faster learning.

What makes this approach particularly powerful is its alignment with human psychology. Research by Teresa Amabile and Steven Kramer, involving over 12,000 diary entries from 238 employees across seven companies, revealed a fascinating insight: the single most powerful motivator in the workplace is making progress on meaningful work. On employees’ best days, 76% involved achieving progress, while only 13% involved setbacks. Surprisingly, only 5% of managers recognized progress as a primary motivator, ranking it last among potential motivational factors.

This “progress principle” becomes a powerful ally in the reset process. Once you start moving the boulder – even slightly – the psychological boost from that progress creates positive momentum that can help sustain the change effort. It transforms the daunting task of organizational change from an exhausting push against resistance into a more natural flow of continuous improvement.

As with his previous books (see here, here, and here), Heath uses real-world examples to demonstrate the effectiveness of this approach across diverse situations: from turning around struggling libraries and companies to revitalizing hospital operations and even improving personal relationships. The framework has proven adaptable to various contexts, whether addressing operational inefficiencies, customer satisfaction, employee engagement, or strategic direction.

The process challenges several common assumptions about organizational change. It suggests that seeking “buy-in” might be the wrong approach to change management. It reveals that inefficiency can sometimes accelerate progress, and that people often overestimate their understanding of the systems they work within. Perhaps most importantly, it demonstrates that the middle phase of any change effort is typically the most challenging – a insight that helps teams prepare for and push through the inevitable rough patches.

The beauty of this Reset framework lies in its simplicity: find the right leverage points and realign resources to apply pressure there. While the concept is straightforward, the execution requires careful analysis, strategic thinking, and willingness to make difficult trade-offs. However, the rewards are worth the effort: breaking free from unproductive patterns, experiencing forward momentum where there was once stagnation, and regaining a sense of agency over seemingly intractable situations.

This approach offers hope to anyone feeling stuck in a rut, whether personally or professionally. It provides a practical pathway to change that doesn’t rely on heroic efforts or unlimited resources, but rather on smart targeting of effort and strategic reallocation of existing assets. By understanding and applying these principles, individuals and organizations can transform themselves from spinning their wheels to moving purposefully toward their goals.

In a future post, I will be unpacking Reset in terms of how I am applying it in my personal life. Stay tuned!

Part of a regular series on 27gen, entitled Wednesday Weekly Reader.

During my elementary school years one of the things I looked forward to the most was the delivery of “My Weekly Reader,” a weekly educational magazine designed for children and containing news-based current events.

It became a regular part of my love for reading, and helped develop my curiosity about the world around us.

A Hybrid Future of Third Places

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The concept of the third place has always been about more than just the physical spaces we frequent to unwind, connect, and build community. Coined by sociologist Ray Oldenburg, third places are those informal gathering spots – cafés, parks, libraries, pubs – that provide a neutral ground for interaction, fostering a sense of belonging outside of home (first place) and work (second place). While Oldenburg’s vision remains relevant, the 21st century has seen a dramatic evolution in what constitutes a third place, thanks to the digital revolution, shifts in societal norms, and hybrid models of interaction.

In today’s world, third places are no longer confined to brick-and-mortar establishments. They coexist with digital platforms and hybrid environments that blur the lines between the physical and virtual. Here’s how these changes reflect the changing nature of how people connect and build community, offering a glimpse into the hybrid future of third places.

The Expansion of Third Places into Digital Spaces

One of the most significant shifts in the concept of third places is their expansion into the digital realm. Social media platforms, online gaming communities, and virtual spaces like Discord servers or Reddit threads have become modern third places for many. These platforms offer the same sense of camaraderie, interaction, and shared interest that Oldenburg attributed to physical third places – but without the need for physical presence.

Take online multiplayer games as an example. Games like World of Warcraft or Fortnite have created vibrant, interactive worlds where players from around the globe meet, collaborate, and socialize. These digital environments often feel as real to participants as a local pub might to its regulars. Similarly, platforms like Twitch, where communities form around shared entertainment, mirror the sense of belonging found in traditional third places.

Digital third places also break down barriers of geography, enabling people to connect regardless of their physical location. This inclusivity can be particularly meaningful for those who might lack access to traditional third places due to financial, geographic, or mobility constraints. However, they’re not without challenges—online environments often lack the serendipity of physical spaces, and they can sometimes exacerbate feelings of disconnection or anonymity.

Hybrid Models: Bridging the Physical and Digital

The future of third places isn’t an either-or scenario between physical and digital; it’s about hybridization. Hybrid third places seamlessly integrate in-person interaction with digital connectivity, creating new opportunities for connection that cater to modern lifestyles. Consider the rise of co-working spaces that offer virtual memberships or host hybrid events where participants can join both in-person and online.

This hybrid model became especially prevalent during the COVID-19 pandemic, when lockdowns forced physical spaces to adapt. Cafés began offering online book clubs, gyms provided virtual fitness classes, and libraries hosted Zoom-based story times. These adaptations didn’t just fill a temporary gap – they highlighted the potential for hybrid third places to reach broader audiences and foster community in new ways.

Even traditional third places like pubs and restaurants are embracing hybrid elements. Some venues now host livestreamed trivia nights, allowing patrons to participate both on-site and from home. Others integrate technology like augmented reality (AR) to enhance the experience of being in the space. For example, a café might offer an AR-enabled mural that comes to life through a smartphone app, combining art, technology, and community.

The Enduring Relevance of Traditional Third Places

While digital and hybrid models have gained prominence, traditional third places remain indispensable. These physical spaces offer something uniquely human: face-to-face interaction. The sensory experience of sitting in a bustling café, sharing laughter over drinks, or browsing a local bookstore creates a connection that digital spaces struggle to replicate.

Moreover, traditional third places often serve as equalizers, providing neutral ground where people from different walks of life can come together. They foster the kind of spontaneous, unstructured interactions that build social trust and community cohesion. A park bench or a neighborhood pub might not have the technological bells and whistles of a digital platform, but they offer something just as valuable: a space to simply be with others.

To stay relevant, traditional third places are finding ways to complement – rather than compete with – digital and hybrid options. For example, many cafés and libraries now offer robust Wi-Fi and charging stations to accommodate remote workers, blending the physical and digital to meet evolving needs.

The Challenges of a Hybrid Future

As exciting as the hybrid future of third places is, it’s not without challenges. One concern is accessibility. Digital and hybrid third places often require technology, such as smartphones or reliable internet access, which not everyone has. Ensuring inclusivity means addressing these disparities and finding ways to make hybrid third places accessible to all.

Another challenge is preserving the essence of third places – their sense of spontaneity, neutrality, and community – in a hybrid model. Too much emphasis on digital tools or commercial elements can risk turning third places into transactional environments rather than spaces of genuine connection.

Designing Third Places for the Future

To thrive in the 21st century, third places must be intentionally designed to embrace both traditional and modern elements. This might include:

  • Flexible layouts: Spaces that can accommodate both digital and physical interactions, such as communal tables for collaboration and quiet corners for introspection.
  • Inclusive programming: Events and initiatives that cater to diverse audiences, both in-person and online.
  • Tech integration with purpose: Using technology to enhance, rather than replace, the human experience. For example, digital tools could be used to facilitate connections between patrons or highlight local community initiatives.
  • Sustainability: Ensuring that third places remain accessible to all, regardless of income or technological access.

A Vision for Connection in the 21st Century

The hybrid future of third places reflects the evolving ways in which people connect, build community, and find belonging. While the digital age has expanded the possibilities for interaction, the core principles of third places remain unchanged: they are spaces where people come together, share experiences, and feel part of something bigger than themselves.

By embracing both the old and the new, third places can continue to serve as vital hubs of community in a rapidly changing world. Whether physical, digital, or somewhere in between, these spaces remind us of the importance of connection – and the many forms it can take.

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Eating Like a Hobbit: Embracing a New Diet After Surgery

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Little did I know that our family’s unique ritual of a “different” Christmas meal every year would soon pay benefits!

Undergoing gallbladder surgery is no small matter, and adapting to new dietary requirements can feel overwhelming. But what if you could turn this challenge into a whimsical adventure inspired by Middle-earth? As a Tolkien fan, I’ve found joy in weaving Hobbit mealtimes into my recovery plan, embracing the seven mealtimes of a Hobbit’s day wholeheartedly. Here’s how these delightful meals are guiding me to a healthier, post-surgery diet.

Breakfast: A Gentle Start

Breakfast sets the tone for the day, and after gallbladder surgery, it’s essential to keep it light and easy on digestion. Think of it as preparing your body for the journey ahead. A warm bowl of oatmeal with a drizzle of honey or a small fruit smoothie offers just the right balance of comfort and energy. Starting with simple, low-fat options ensures a gentle wake-up for your digestive system.

Second Breakfast: A Mid-Morning Boost

Why stop at one breakfast when you can have two? Second Breakfast isn’t just for Hobbits; it’s an excellent way to maintain steady energy throughout the morning. A slice of whole-grain toast with almond butter or a small serving of low-fat yogurt with fresh berries makes for a delightful and nutritious snack. Think of it as fuel for the next leg of your adventure.

Elevenses: A Perfect Snack Break

By mid-morning, your body might call for a little something to keep hunger at bay. Elevenses is the perfect time for a light snack. A handful of unsalted nuts, a rice cake with hummus, or a crisp apple are satisfying and digestion-friendly. It’s a pause to enjoy a moment of calm and nourishment before the day’s bustle continues.

Luncheon: Midday Sustenance

When lunchtime arrives, think balance and moderation. A small portion of grilled chicken or fish paired with steamed vegetables and quinoa offers the right mix of protein, fiber, and complex carbs. Avoid heavy, greasy foods, which can tax your digestion. Instead, focus on meals that leave you feeling energized and ready for the afternoon.

Afternoon Tea: A Tasty Respite

Afternoon Tea is a delightful tradition that fits perfectly into a post-surgery diet. Brew a cup of herbal tea and pair it with whole-grain crackers or veggie sticks dipped in guacamole. This light snack keeps hunger at bay without overloading your system and offers a welcome pause in your day.

Dinner: A Hearty but Balanced Feast

Dinner is often the main event, but post-surgery, it’s wise to keep it hearty yet light. A baked salmon fillet with roasted sweet potatoes and a small green salad provides a satisfying, nutritious meal. Avoid rich, creamy sauces and opt for simple, fresh ingredients that your body will thank you for.

Supper: A Gentle Close to the Day

As the day winds down, Supper offers a final chance to nourish your body without overloading it. A small bowl of soup or a banana with a dollop of peanut butter can be the perfect end to your culinary adventure. Think of it as a peaceful conclusion to a Hobbit-worthy day.

Hobbit Wisdom for Recovery

Hobbits teach us to find joy in the simple pleasures of life, and meal times are no exception. By embracing smaller, more frequent meals, you’re not only aiding your recovery but also rediscovering the joy of mindful eating. So raise your herbal tea and toast to good health, second breakfasts, and the adventure of healing like a Hobbit!