What would you call someone who listens without judgment, offers you wise counsel but helps you make your own decision, and loves you no matter what?

That’s a friend!

Jesus had a nickname given to him by the religious leaders of His day – Friend of Sinners (Matthew 11:16-19).

Jesus’ simple strategy to reach the world was friendship and blessing.

There is no better model for what it looks like to “go and bless” than Jesus. His entire life was a blessing. The Gospels give us numerous examples of how Jesus blessed the people He encountered.

Dave Ferguson and Jon Ferguson

B.L.E.S.S. authors Dave Ferguson and Jon Ferguson made a list of all the ways Jesus practiced being a blessing to people, and narrowed it down to the top five. The resulting B.L.E.S.S. practices are five everyday ways that Jesus loved his neighbors.

B: Begin with prayer

When Jesus started His earthly mission, Luke 6 tells us that He went out on a mountain and prayed. Prayer is both how you discover your mission and how you live out your mission.

L: Listen

Asking questions and then listening was central to Jesus’ life and teachings. Any relationship starts with listening to someone’s words and life. True listening may be the kindest and most loving gift you can give someone.

E: Eat

Jesus liked to eat! Over and over, as in Matthew 9, we find Jesus with tax collectors and sinners…doing what? Eating! There is something about sharing a meal together that moves any relationship past acquaintance toward friendship.

S: Serve

Jesus told us straight up, “The Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve…” (Matthew 20:28). He modeled for us that once you begin with prayer, listen, and eat with someone, there is a good chance that you’ll discover how you can best serve the person God is asking you to bless.

S: Story

When people were ready to listen, Jesus would share his story, as in John 14 with Thomas. When you befriend and bless people, they feel relationally safe and want to know your story. Then, and only then, can you tell them how the love of God and Jesus’ life, death, and resurrection have changed you.

Using the brief descriptions above, and downloading the PDF tool below, write out practices in each of the five B.L.E.S.S. categories.

How will you use one of these practices each day?

Remember, though: B.L.E.S.S. is not a checklist.

Many well-intentioned people have taken these missional rhythms and turned them into a set of linear steps to be performed one at a time. The B.L.E.S.S. practices are NOT a checklist or another church program you graduate from. They are simple, everyday ways to bless the people around you. Never focus more on the practices than on the people you are seeking to bless!

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inspired by B.L.E.S.S. by Dave Ferguson and Jon Ferguson